Thank you everyone, this gives me hope. When I told my husband if there wasn’t a way to start to get it down in size in a few years I was considering (in a few year) having it removed and planting something more size appropriate. He looked sad, it really is a beautiful tree.
I’m pretty sure it’s a Japanese Red Maple, it was planted before we bought the house so I’m unsure of the exact kind. I’d guess it’s a good 20’ tall and at least 15’ wide with green leaves in the spring that turn a beautiful medium dark red.
Luckily I don’t have all the seed pods, or at least not enough to notice falling all over, I feel for you PomGranny. In Oregon we had a huge tree (I’m terrible with plant names I’m realizing, but my father-in-law said it was a tree common in the midwest) that had these big seed pods. In the fall, tons of leaves. In the winter old, hard, seed pod shells would drop. In the spring TONS of blossoms, which were beautiful until the entire yard was brown with them. In the summer new seed pods would drop. It was a crazy tree that just made a mess year round, and now that I live in the midwest I am thankful I don’t own another one of these trees.