For the most part, I hope most of you agree with me that this is a wonderful forum where various topics are discussed and even argued within the confines of the rules of civility and the rules of the forum itself.
However, I just had a topic shut down here because someone made a provocative comment and inevitably it brought a response that completely crossed the line into personal criticism of the author of the borderline comment.
Here’s the thing, some of us were having an enjoyable discussion that was cut off unnecessarily. While I fully understand and sometimes share the desire to perform a kind of public flogging towards an offending party, I believe this kind of vigilante justice is detrimental to the forum.
Anyone on this forum who is offended by something someone else writes has three perfectly functional options if a civil reply, on topic and within the rules of the forum seems inadequate.
You can write that person a personal note to communicate your displeasure and hopefully even negotiate an agreement, although aggressive complaint is acceptable in this context. You can contact the moderators and ask them to intervene. Or thirdly, you can flag the comment and if someone else agrees with your flagging they will flag it also and the comment will disappear.
What I believe you shouldn’t do and the rules of the Forum demand you not do is to seek revenge on the person by insulting them in the open view of the forum. That is not your call to make. That is not a moderators call to make. The forum will be more enjoyable for everyone if we keep these squabbles as private as possible.
This being said, I think we should congratulate ourselves that cases where folks cross the line are pretty rare here and seem to be getting rarer.