Apple grafting experts: what do you recommend?

@Richard

If it’s any consolation i have no experience with avocado and very little with citrus. Apples and pears on the other hand i have grafted thousands of times. Here is a couple of more threads for reference on the method. You will notice the larger circumference trunk i bark grafted aka rind grafted in the second thread.

The original thread below i posted i think is a closer match to your situation