Welcome to the forum (and to the other side of the pond)!
I’m also in New England and also growing apples, so while I’m far from being an expert I’m going to offer a few thoughts and hope others will jump in.
Just to start things off, growing conditions vary significantly within New England, so depending on where people are their perspectives and experiences may be quite a bit different. What’s true for me in Western Mass may not be true for people like @hobilus up in NH (I think), or @steveb4 up in Northern Maine, or even @mamuang a ways east of me.
Yeah, that was a rough year for pretty much everyone in this part of the country.
Rabbits will do that, too, if you have them, and if you have deer you may have other problems. Tree guards are definitely key.
Sorry to hear that! I lost a tree to fireblight last year (turns out the variety was unusually susceptible), but it was on Geneva rootstock (G41), so that survived and is putting out new shoots, and I’ll be able to regraft as soon as next year. While people have different opinions of the Geneva stocks, I tend to think they’re worth it for precisely this reason.
Different people will have different takes on this, but I would be reluctant to cut it as well. If nothing else, it shows that apples can grow well in New England with relatively little care, which has been my observation in our area. Fireblight resistant pears and Asian pears can also do well.
Stone fruit tends to be hit or miss in our part of New England (and from what I understand, with apricots especially, it’s mostly miss). I don’t personally grow a lot of stone fruit for this reason, just a couple of peaches (one new this year) and a tart cherry (also new this year). My personal stance is that I regard them as primarily as ornamentals that come with a lottery ticket as far as actually getting fruit goes, but I realize that’s not going to be satisfying for many people. Other people will have more insight on this subject.
Blueberries are awesome! Blackberries and raspberries are also good and relatively low-maintenance options in much of New England. Elderberries, mulberries, serviceberries, tart cherries, and bush cherries might also be things to think about. Currants can be good if you live in a place where you’re allowed to grow them (they’re prohibited in many parts of New England due to concerns with white pine blister rust). Aronia seems to be pretty bulletproof, though the fruit is best blended with other things.
Hope this is helpful! I’m sure people will have other suggestions.